Learn, Relearn, Unlearn.

All of my life since born to now, I learn many things.

I learn how to speak.
I learn how to eat and drink.
I learn how to putting on a clothes.
I learn how to survive in school.
I learn how to deal with people.
I learn how to get my first job.
I learn to understand myself as individual.
I learn about love.
I learn about the meaning of happiness.

I learn so many things, which make me -unfortunately, forgets the other thing that I realize is more important; unlearn & relearn.

As I grow older, I saw many things. I experienced ups and downs in life, I saw people’s success and failures. I realize as I grow older, all of the things I thought I’ve learned all my life, turns out they are all not always true -and relevant. It turns out, all things my parents has taught me, all things my teachers has taught me, all things I’ve seen, all things I’ve do, is not always right.

I cannot change what the elder has taught me before. But I always have the choice to became what kind of person I want to be. I don’t have to be A, or B, or C. I can be X, Y, or Z. I’ve taught about achieving more, but I also learn to let go more. I’ve taught about goals and success, I also learn about failures. I believe what I’ve taught before does not define me as a person. It helps me grow, and I have all the power to choose which way I’m gonna grow.

Relearn and unlearn is definitely not easy, but definitely worth it. When I learn something, it’s like I am an empty glass, filled with tea. Relearn and unlearn is when I decided to change the tea with coffee, or maybe milk tea. It’s a long journey to evaluate all the things inside me, then decide that it is not who I am and not who I want to be, and start to filling myself again.

“Once you become a certain age, it is your responsibility to unlearn behaviors that hinder your growth as a person.”

The thought of “this is who I am, take it or leave it” is so irrelevant. I experienced bad experience, I may grow a toxic trait. But it’s not an excuse to just living with those toxic trait, it’s all my responsibility to unlearn those toxic trait and relearn more positive trait.

As a human, it’s our nature to always grow and move. When I used to define grow as learning, now I’m adding terms about unlearn and relearn. The more I can unlearn and relearn, the more likely I experience the sense of growth and progress I desire.